Let’s talk about urges.
I don’t mean the kind where you’re in a crowded supermarket and have the urge to belt out your favourite Broadway tune. I’m talking sexual urges.
Everyone gets that urge for sex in general, when they get so turned on or horny (often by something they read or see on TV) that they have the urge to have sex with the nearest person.
The type of sex I specifically want to talk about is the urge for rough sex.
Sometimes, I just can’t help but ask for it ‘harder’ or to pull my partner’s hair when she goes down on me. That’s normal, right?
Absolutely.
I’m not exactly sure why I sometimes need it rougher, but I can’t actually control myself when I do. This problem regularly leads to me biting my own skin around my wrist area, leaving large, red lines that resemble the shape of my teeth.
So what is it that creates this urge?
Maybe, for some, it’s that their partner just isn’t satisfying them. Maybe they’re doing something they don’t want or maybe they want them to focus on a different area of their body.
I for one sometimes get agitated when my nipples are played with or sucked. Sure, it feels nice, but it’s just sometimes not what I want at that particular moment.
Maybe it’s that the person having sex hasn’t had sex for such a long time that their urges are, well, urgent, and they need a quick fix for their needs.
Anyway, whatever it is, it can definitely be hot on the odd occasion.
So if you ever have that ‘urge’, make sure you act on it. Your partner will definitely think it’s hot.
I’m not kidding.
Sex & the Countryside 